Table of Contents
1. red flag of Words vs Actions: Recognizing Manipulation
If someone’s actions and words don’t match, it’s manipulation. Be cautious.
2. Love Bombing vs Hurtful Behavior
Understand the difference between love bombing and hurting you—this is a tactic to confuse you about whether someone truly loves you.
3. Watch Actions, Not Just Words
What someone says about themselves or how exciting they seem initially doesn’t matter. Focus on what they actually do.
4. The Dangers of Disappearing and Reappearing
The most dangerous person is not the one who disappears, but the one who disappears and reappears. They can waste your time and life.
5. Hurting You and Not Feeling Bad About It
If someone hurts you and doesn’t feel bad about it, they don’t love you.
6. Apology Without Change is Manipulation
A “sorry” means nothing unless backed by changed behavior. An apology without change is simply manipulation.
7. Trust Your Body’s Signals
Your body communicates when something feels wrong. If you feel anxious around someone, listen to it. It’s a sign you don’t feel safe or trust them.
8. Feeling Safe and Secure
Being around someone who makes you feel calm and safe is crucial for a healthy relationship.
9. Emotional Maturity in Relationships
Emotional maturity is a must for a healthy relationship. Ensure both partners are emotionally mature.
10. Balance of Giving and Taking
In relationships, ensure it’s a balance of give and take. You shouldn’t be the only one giving.
11. Letting Go of Unavailability
If someone is unavailable when you need them most, let it go. You deserve someone who will be there for you.
12. Trust Your Feelings Over Words
No matter how many times someone says “I love you,” if you don’t feel it, walk away. Trust your emotions.
13. People Are What They Do, Not What They Say
People are defined by their actions, not their words. If someone repeatedly fails to act as promised, it’s a sign of manipulation or deceit.
14. Choose Solitude Over a Narcissist
If you find most of the signs listed above (except points 8 and 9) in someone, choose to be alone rather than be with a narcissist. It’s better to be single than to stay in a toxic relationship.